tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7419360470005908061.post5097156285892882071..comments2012-08-09T18:51:21.440-07:00Comments on Carousel Ride{circle of life & what comes with it}: Advice for the Bewilderedkalr3http://www.blogger.com/profile/11618971720119122384noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7419360470005908061.post-76400276605970671242011-01-11T10:44:48.945-08:002011-01-11T10:44:48.945-08:00Haha...yeah, I have a plan for something low-press...Haha...yeah, I have a plan for something low-pressure that I'm working on. If it doesn't pan out, I'll probably back off a bit. At least for awhile. :) Thanks.kalr3https://www.blogger.com/profile/11618971720119122384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7419360470005908061.post-76897707148109759272011-01-11T10:29:14.170-08:002011-01-11T10:29:14.170-08:00It does, but maybe he's the kind that likes to...It does, but maybe he's the kind that likes to always keep his options open and will never give that outright 'no' to you. It's a slippery slope I tell you. If you're willing to be patient, wait longer but at some point you may get upset and/or resent him for it. Go with your heart, just maybe slightly more aggressively :)Griffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13367427578893357611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7419360470005908061.post-24132000659628841812011-01-11T10:23:39.486-08:002011-01-11T10:23:39.486-08:00Thanks for the honesty...all of those things have ...Thanks for the honesty...all of those things have gone through my mind too. You could absolutely be right...however...the things he told me sounded very sincere and I left it WIDE OPEN for him to say a flat NO with an easy-out...and he didn't. That's what I keep coming back to. He could have had such an easy out but he didn't take it. Does that make sense?kalr3https://www.blogger.com/profile/11618971720119122384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7419360470005908061.post-68938703271307046552011-01-11T10:12:18.414-08:002011-01-11T10:12:18.414-08:00Shit... that's not good. I'm just guessing...Shit... that's not good. I'm just guessing, but it sounds like this guy is either trying to work his way into a friends with benefits situation or possibly not interested enough to commit. Or both? <br />Wait, do I know you? lol. Kidding. Seriously though, I'm not proud to say it but in all honesty I've done it in my past. And no, I never committed to the relationship. But I do have a very good friend still who I'm talking to via e-mail as I type this. <br />I'm not sure of the timeline of everything here, but I'm guessing the guy needs another shove and if that doesn't take... move on. He's not going to suddenly come running. Something in his head has kept him from committing to this point.Griffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13367427578893357611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7419360470005908061.post-1637275425652479582011-01-11T10:01:11.797-08:002011-01-11T10:01:11.797-08:00Thanks so much Griff... Actually, I probably shoul...Thanks so much Griff... Actually, I probably should have mentioned that I HAVE flat out told him I'm interested. He is in a place right now where he doesn't feel he has much to offer in a relationship so we agreed to get to know each other as friends and let whatever happens happen. It's just getting to that point where we are hanging out socially outside of the place I normally see him that I'm struggling with. He won't commit to actual plans and I can't figure out why. He was very honest and up-front about everything when we talked about it...but his actions aren't matching up with what he said...kalr3https://www.blogger.com/profile/11618971720119122384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7419360470005908061.post-82780597998566440002011-01-11T09:55:35.056-08:002011-01-11T09:55:35.056-08:00I've been that guy in the EXACT same situation...I've been that guy in the EXACT same situation more than once (twice), and it took a bit of a shove. When I say exact, I mean exact. Kid's gone for the weekend, etc... Sometimes if you don't spell it out clearly, you'll never know. I know, sounds stupid. But that's how some of our minds work sometimes. It can be clear as day to us AFTER it's mentioned. If you're not up front with him, odds are you'll never know in my opinion. Good luck!Griffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13367427578893357611noreply@blogger.com